Raising Children with values
parents have tremendous influence over children. let Your family's values become the guidelines for how you and your children develop and relate over time.
Values-based discipline approach
Identify your family's shared values
We all have them. We all demonstrate them. We often don't name them. Take time to identify what values you communicate (intentionally and inadvertently) in your home. Think about phrases that you frequently use when you are trying to teach your kids a lesson. Listen for frequent reminders you give your children about the why behind your expectations. You might hear yourself communicating the importance of relationships, generosity, integrity, respect. Focus on the couple of values that you most frequently highlight and most consistently reinforce above others.
examine your current discipline
List all of the discipline strategies you currently use...the good, the bad, and the ugly! Then examine each one to determine whether it reinforces your family's shared values. If strategies you are using with your kids do not get you back to living in line with the values you are trying to instill, then consider trying something different. Ineffective discipline feels like "rut" parenting -- you keep trying things that just don't seem to change the situation. Damaging discipline moves you away from your family's values, often damaging your relationship with your child. Choose and use strategies that reinforce your values.